Parents

 

Not sure how to put into words the feelings involved in losing a child to cancer. There aren't words in the English language to describe the profound sorrow and loss. It's an emptiness that never goes away. It gets a little easier every day to cope, but there are always constant reminders of her. I simply can't imagine anything worse in the world than waking up every day and not seeing the smiling face of my first born daughter. To watch her suffer through the almost daily medications and procedures involved with cancer treatment was bad enough. Not having her to hug and kiss every day is worse.

 

I'm not sure I would have survived if it weren't for the love of my other daughter and son. In their own way, they helped me through some tough days, without even realizing it. Jordan is in my heart and thoughts every minute of every day, but I still have to be strong for my other children. They need me and I need them. I hope and pray that no one has to endure the pain and misery of the whole experience. I am not sure what else to say except that it hurts and probably always will. 

 

                                 - Jordan's dad, Lem Richey

 

Tips

 

•  ​Eat well. It's important to take care of yourself too.

• Ask for help. Don't be afraid that anyone will think less of you.

• Exercise. It helps lower stress and reduce tension.

• Take deep breaths. It helps to reduce stress.

• Stay positive.

• Take some "you" time. Go do something you love. Get a massage, do yoga, take a nap, or anything else you enjoy.

• Listen to music. It helps to relax, reduce tension and stress

• Support groups. They can help you talk through things and might be able to give you tips because they're going through the same thing.